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Saturday, July 2, 2011
Wednesday, June 29, 2011
Bad to the Bone: Dealing With a Bad Boss
You're weary. You're frustrated. You're unhappy. You're demotivated. Your interaction with your boss leaves you cold. He's a bully, intrusive, controlling, picky or petty. He takes credit for your work, never provides positive feedback and misses each meeting he schedules with you. Or he caves immediately under pressure and fails to support you in accomplishing your job.
He's a bad boss, bad to the bone. Dealing with a less than effective manager, or just plain bad managers and bad bosses, is a challenge too many employees face. No matter the character of your bad boss, these ideas will help you deal with your bad boss.
Does the Bad Boss Know?
Start your campaign by understanding that your boss may not know he is bad. Just as in situational leadership, the definition of "bad" depends on the employee's needs, the manager's skills and the circumstances.
A hands-off manager may not realize that his failure to provide any direction or feedback makes him a bad boss. He may think he’s empowering his staff. A manager who provides too much direction and micromanages may feel insecure and uncertain about his own job. He may not realize his direction is insulting to a competent, secure, self-directed staff member.
Or, maybe the boss lacks training and is so overwhelmed with his job requirements that he can’t provide support for you. Perhaps he has been promoted too quickly or his reporting responsibilities have expanded beyond his reach. In these days of downsizing, responsibilities are often shared by fewer staff members than ever before.
This bad boss may not share your values. The newer generation of workers expect that they can use their vacation time and take action to make work-life balance a priority. Not all bosses share these views. If your values are out of sync with those of your boss, you do have a problem.
Recommended Approach to the Unwitting Bad Boss
•Talk to this boss. Tell him what you need from him in term of direction, feedback and support. Be polite and focus on your needs. Telling the boss he’s a bad boss is counterproductive and won’t help you meet your goals.
•Ask the manager how you can help him reach his goals. Make sure you listen well and provide the needed assistance.
•Seek a mentor from among other managers or more skilled peers, with the full knowledge of your current manager, to enlarge your opportunity for experience.
•If you’ve taken these actions, and they haven’t worked, go to your boss’s manager and ask for assistance. Or, you can go to your Human Resources staff first, to rehearse and gain advice. Understand that your current boss may never forgive you, so ensure you have done what you can do with him, before taking your issues up the line.
•You may never hear what the boss’s boss or the HR staff did to help solve your bad manager’s behavior. It’s confidential. But, do allow some time to pass for the actions to have their desired impact.
•If nothing changes, despite your best efforts, and you think the problem is that they don’t believe you, draw together coworkers who also experience the behavior. Visit the boss’s manager to help him see the size and impact of the behavior.
•If you think the problem is that your boss can’t – or won’t – change, ask for a transfer to another department. This recommendation presumes you like your employer and your work.
•If a transfer or promotion is unavailable, begin your search for a new job. Fleeing is always an option. You may want to conduct your job search secretly, but under the circumstances, it may be time for you to go.
When the Bad Boss Knows
Working with a manager at a client company, we discussed his approach to employees. He looked down his nose at them. He criticized and screamed at employees. He publicly humiliated any employee who made a mistake. One day he called me to ask a question. I thought, “Great. Break through.” I was doomed to disappointment when he said, “I know that you don’t approve of me screaming at staff as a regular thing.” I agreed. “So, can you tell me, please, what are the circumstances under which it is okay to scream at them?”
This manager thought his behavior was perfectly acceptable. (The end of the story? He never did change and was eventually removed as manager.) Most managers that bully, intimidate, cruelly criticize, name call and treat you as if you are stupid likely know what they are doing. They may know they’re bad and even revel in their badness.
They may feel their behavior has been condoned - and even encouraged - within your organization. They may have learned the behaviors from their former supervisor who was viewed as successful.
You don’t have to put up with demeaning behavior. You deserve a good boss who helps your self-confidence and self-esteem grow. You deserve a good boss who helps you advance your career. You deserve civil, professional treatment at work.
Recommended Approach to the Bad Boss Who Knows
•Start by recognizing that you have the right to a professional environment in your workplace. You are not the problem. You have a bad boss. He is the problem.
•You can try talking with the bad boss to tell him the impact that his actions or words are having on you or your performance. In a rare blue moon, the bad boss might care enough to work to modify his behavior. If he does decide to work on his behavior, hold him to his commitments. If you allow him to yell at you, even just a little bit, you are training him that he can get away with his former behavior. Don’t go to war publicly, but draw his behavior to his attention as soon as you have the opportunity, privately.
•If the behavior does not change, appeal to his supervisor and to Human Resources staff. Describe exactly what he does and the impact the behavior is having on you and your job performance. You may never hear what the boss’s boss or the HR staff did to help solve your bad manager’s behavior. It’s confidential. But, do allow some time to pass for the actions to have their desired impact.
•If nothing changes, despite your best efforts, and you think the problem is that they don’t believe you, draw together coworkers who also experience the behavior. Visit the boss’s manager to help him see the size and impact of the behavior.
•If you think the problem is that your boss can’t – or won’t – change, ask for a transfer to another department. This recommendation presumes you like your employer and your work.
•If a transfer or promotion is unavailable, begin your search for a new job. Fleeing is always an option. You may want to conduct your job search secretly, but under the circumstances, it may be time for you to go.
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He's a bad boss, bad to the bone. Dealing with a less than effective manager, or just plain bad managers and bad bosses, is a challenge too many employees face. No matter the character of your bad boss, these ideas will help you deal with your bad boss.
Does the Bad Boss Know?
Start your campaign by understanding that your boss may not know he is bad. Just as in situational leadership, the definition of "bad" depends on the employee's needs, the manager's skills and the circumstances.
A hands-off manager may not realize that his failure to provide any direction or feedback makes him a bad boss. He may think he’s empowering his staff. A manager who provides too much direction and micromanages may feel insecure and uncertain about his own job. He may not realize his direction is insulting to a competent, secure, self-directed staff member.
Or, maybe the boss lacks training and is so overwhelmed with his job requirements that he can’t provide support for you. Perhaps he has been promoted too quickly or his reporting responsibilities have expanded beyond his reach. In these days of downsizing, responsibilities are often shared by fewer staff members than ever before.
This bad boss may not share your values. The newer generation of workers expect that they can use their vacation time and take action to make work-life balance a priority. Not all bosses share these views. If your values are out of sync with those of your boss, you do have a problem.
Recommended Approach to the Unwitting Bad Boss
•Talk to this boss. Tell him what you need from him in term of direction, feedback and support. Be polite and focus on your needs. Telling the boss he’s a bad boss is counterproductive and won’t help you meet your goals.
•Ask the manager how you can help him reach his goals. Make sure you listen well and provide the needed assistance.
•Seek a mentor from among other managers or more skilled peers, with the full knowledge of your current manager, to enlarge your opportunity for experience.
•If you’ve taken these actions, and they haven’t worked, go to your boss’s manager and ask for assistance. Or, you can go to your Human Resources staff first, to rehearse and gain advice. Understand that your current boss may never forgive you, so ensure you have done what you can do with him, before taking your issues up the line.
•You may never hear what the boss’s boss or the HR staff did to help solve your bad manager’s behavior. It’s confidential. But, do allow some time to pass for the actions to have their desired impact.
•If nothing changes, despite your best efforts, and you think the problem is that they don’t believe you, draw together coworkers who also experience the behavior. Visit the boss’s manager to help him see the size and impact of the behavior.
•If you think the problem is that your boss can’t – or won’t – change, ask for a transfer to another department. This recommendation presumes you like your employer and your work.
•If a transfer or promotion is unavailable, begin your search for a new job. Fleeing is always an option. You may want to conduct your job search secretly, but under the circumstances, it may be time for you to go.
When the Bad Boss Knows
Working with a manager at a client company, we discussed his approach to employees. He looked down his nose at them. He criticized and screamed at employees. He publicly humiliated any employee who made a mistake. One day he called me to ask a question. I thought, “Great. Break through.” I was doomed to disappointment when he said, “I know that you don’t approve of me screaming at staff as a regular thing.” I agreed. “So, can you tell me, please, what are the circumstances under which it is okay to scream at them?”
This manager thought his behavior was perfectly acceptable. (The end of the story? He never did change and was eventually removed as manager.) Most managers that bully, intimidate, cruelly criticize, name call and treat you as if you are stupid likely know what they are doing. They may know they’re bad and even revel in their badness.
They may feel their behavior has been condoned - and even encouraged - within your organization. They may have learned the behaviors from their former supervisor who was viewed as successful.
You don’t have to put up with demeaning behavior. You deserve a good boss who helps your self-confidence and self-esteem grow. You deserve a good boss who helps you advance your career. You deserve civil, professional treatment at work.
Recommended Approach to the Bad Boss Who Knows
•Start by recognizing that you have the right to a professional environment in your workplace. You are not the problem. You have a bad boss. He is the problem.
•You can try talking with the bad boss to tell him the impact that his actions or words are having on you or your performance. In a rare blue moon, the bad boss might care enough to work to modify his behavior. If he does decide to work on his behavior, hold him to his commitments. If you allow him to yell at you, even just a little bit, you are training him that he can get away with his former behavior. Don’t go to war publicly, but draw his behavior to his attention as soon as you have the opportunity, privately.
•If the behavior does not change, appeal to his supervisor and to Human Resources staff. Describe exactly what he does and the impact the behavior is having on you and your job performance. You may never hear what the boss’s boss or the HR staff did to help solve your bad manager’s behavior. It’s confidential. But, do allow some time to pass for the actions to have their desired impact.
•If nothing changes, despite your best efforts, and you think the problem is that they don’t believe you, draw together coworkers who also experience the behavior. Visit the boss’s manager to help him see the size and impact of the behavior.
•If you think the problem is that your boss can’t – or won’t – change, ask for a transfer to another department. This recommendation presumes you like your employer and your work.
•If a transfer or promotion is unavailable, begin your search for a new job. Fleeing is always an option. You may want to conduct your job search secretly, but under the circumstances, it may be time for you to go.
Monday, June 27, 2011
Hello Kitty at Seoul Korea Restaurant
It was a little gathering at Seoul Korea restaurant with few of ex colleague; netherless to say that Kitty is there with me. Gratefully that the Hokkaido cakes from RT Pastry was such yummy that kitty loves it a lot ;)
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Hello Kitty going to work with mummy
Netherless to say that I wont be leaving Kitty at home alone without following me to work. HK following me, is making me much more happy & cheering me up.
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Hello Kitty at Ms Loong's birthday
On Saturday, 25th June 2011; it's Ms Loong surprise birthday party at Library Mid Valley & glad that HK is in time to attend as arrival in Malaysia on the day before.
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| Kitty at Ms Loong's birthday party |
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| Kitty wishing Ms Loong Happy Birthday! |
Arrival of my Limited Edition Hello Kitty plush from Japan
What a wonderful happening that my Limited Edition Hello Kitty plush imported from Japan directly has finally arrived on Friday, 24th June 2011.
I was at work & hubby is at home awaiting for her arrival. So, when hubby coming to fetch me from work, I asked him to bring the package along because I just can't wait to see it at once. The best thing is that hubby brought the whole package un-opened; so I may open the package by myself...
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I was at work & hubby is at home awaiting for her arrival. So, when hubby coming to fetch me from work, I asked him to bring the package along because I just can't wait to see it at once. The best thing is that hubby brought the whole package un-opened; so I may open the package by myself...
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| Bringing HK to dinner on the first evening |
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| Lovely packaging |
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| Special Limited Edition- with a pink heart |
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| Kitty feet |
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| Still in the delivery box |
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| Opening the package- so excited |
Friday, June 17, 2011
My Baby, My Love ~ My Toro!!!
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| So sweet of him - like my boyfriend sleep beside me. keke |
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| So sweet of him - like my boyfriend sleep beside me. How I not to LOVE him; so manja with me which I like |
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| Scared & shy away |
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| He tot what I am going to do to him... always like that. Name: Toro DOB: 10 April 2009 Sex: Male Toro is my birthday present in 2009. |
Wednesday, June 15, 2011
Friday, June 10, 2011
Wednesday, June 8, 2011
Lavazza Cafe @ Viva Home
This is the 2nd time I visited Lavazza Cafe. The first time, I visited their outlet at Taman Segar Perdana, Cheras.
Well, as for this time, I visited their Viva Home outlet. I may say that the portion served was quite tiny/small/little?! But I do only loved their smash potatoes; tasty.
The service here was much more better compared to the one at Taman Segar, Cheras.
Well, as for this time, I visited their Viva Home outlet. I may say that the portion served was quite tiny/small/little?! But I do only loved their smash potatoes; tasty.
The service here was much more better compared to the one at Taman Segar, Cheras.
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| Chicken Chop was too salty for me |
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| The mushroom soup was just so-so; nothing special about it |
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| Medium well beef steak was not up to expectation too @ RM 37.90 |
Tuesday, June 7, 2011
Hello Kitty Visited Patchi
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| 记得第一次认识Patchi Chocolates, 是在4年前我的钟经理带我认识的。好好的钟经理，几年前去了法国。好想念他呢，没有他；也没有今天的我。想到Patchi就想到他，想到他就想到Patchi Chocolates. 好疼我的钟经理。 |
Today, I brought Hello Kitty to Patchi @ Mid Valley, she's happy as brought some nice cutie Patchi chocolates for her.
Originally a Lebanese concoction, Patchi started out as a wedding favours business in 1974. The first Patchi shops outside Lebanon opened in Saudi Arabia in 1976 and Jordan, in 1977. Since then Patchi has evolved to place itself as one of the leaders in the manufacture of ‘designer’ chocolates, special occasion favours, tabletop and exquisite gift items.
Patchi uses the best raw materials and mixes them with the family’s secret recipe. Patchi’s cocoa beans come from the best sources in Europe, processed and manufactured using top-of-the-line Swiss-technology available, thus the company’s ability to produce a fantastic variety of yummy chocolates — all in different and unique packaging, which distinguishes them from others
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